Some folks won’t like what I say here..
Some folks will say it’s judgmental…
Some will say I’m showing my privilege ( which if you know of my past struggles, you’d know is silly)
But these will likely be people who don’t like to hear the truth or who don’t want to adult.
If you aren’t even ready to “adult”… how can you be ready to be a provider?
Lets start with this.
I HAVE STRUGGLED MY ASS OFF BEFORE, I HAVE NOT SO GREAT MONTHS NOW, BUT I PROMISE YOU THEY ARE NOTHING LIKE MY LIFE ONCE WAS. I AM CONSCIOUS HOWEVER THAT AT ANYTIME.. I COULD FIND MYSELF RIGHT BACK THERE.
This is why I never get too comfortable I wake up daily posting, tweeting for Taken By Storm business, I still even though semi-retired still post and maintain my ads and websites for escorting. Because in the blink of an eye, I too can go to needing to figure out how to pay rent, bills and expenses.
I am fortunate that for 3 years straight now I have been in the same residence and been able to do things for my family, that once upon a time were impossible.
BUT let’s go back to when I was in struggle mode. When I was in Struggle mode, even when my family and those who love me thought I couldn’t pull it off… I did! I made any kind of ad I could, moved around if I needed to. I paid not for one room but two room daily (one for family) at a cost of 800 a week. and I did that for over a year at a time often. Being in the hotel living situation after losing one VERY VERY NICE HOME, Is what got me stuck in the hotel. Hotel living makes it almost impossible to save for a way to exit the hotel. ( This also taught me to live in something more modest , till a day in life where I can really maintain a more “extravagant” home again. My home now is simple yet affordable)
I was stubborn and wouldn’t go home to family and friends because I didn’t want to have to live by anyone else’s rules and well because as I proved I KNEW WE’D GET OUT OF THERE.
I on two occasions talked a good game and appealed to caring private landlords who cared enough about me and my family to let us move in , just to get us out of the hotel and then let me pay weekly rent for the first 2 months. I even paid weekly rent at the house I am in now for ONE month and then went on to regular payments. No matter what I do my rent is ALWAYS on time now and has been for 2 yrs and 9 mos running.
So many of you won’t do this and that due to pride. I want you to know it is ok to ask for help ONCE IN A WHILE.. when you really need it. But … once you are posting daily about help ( and I know this from mistakes I made myself years ago when in struggle mode, AGAIN I DID IT MYSELF..SO NO SHADE) People tend to not believe you and begin to accuse you of taking advantage. I know when I did it ,I was being honest and really was going through hell, but only those who took the time to really get to know me ever knew that. To everyone else I was a “lazy ho”
Some of you have been in a bad situation for months now, some due to domestic violence, some due to inability to find housing in your market area, some due to just being in a bad market area. Others due to bad marketing techniques and an unwillingness to try new things or to listen to people who genuinely want to help and who really care.
Two sayings to focus on:
“If it ain’t broke don’t fix it!”
” If you want things to change, you have to change!”
Well the first above quote applies to when things are going great,if it’s working and you are growing and thriving then don’t change it.( But always try to at least keep things fresh so that your viewers and prospective clients don’t get bored)
But is it’s broken and the shit has hit the proverbial fan..
Meaning you can’t cover basic life, adult expenses..
Meaning you have kids to provide for and can’t
Meaning you have no support system at all anymore from anyone
Meaning there’s no real income coming in..
THEN IT’S TIME TO FACE THAT YOU MAY HAVE TO CHANGE THINGS, INCLUDING YOU! CHANGE MAKES US ALL UNCOMFORTABLE AT FIRST. IT IS NATURAL TO BE RESISTANT TO ANYONE TELLING YOU TO TRY SOMETHING NEW.
I GET IT..
But sometimes we have to pick up, pack up, move to new surroundings and new energy!
(Sometimes it’s a blessing and you’re the new face and make more money faster for a few months anyway)
Sometimes we have to take photos or make videos differently.
Sometimes we have to market different,focus on different things and the way we connect with people via our social media,ads and websites. (change your copy content from time to time if its not currently working)
If the men won’t screen with you knowing they are screening. STEALTH SCREEN THE HELL OUT OF THEM!
I do it all the time ( as long as they call in or at least provide a real registered cell number)
Now if you cannot even get the real registered cell number.. that’s different.
But when you have that real number you can use checkpeople.com and phone.instantcheckmate.com and run the number and find all kinds of shit. ( especially with checkpeople)
My point is some of you, are defeated daily before the day even begins.
Positive thoughts and believing you can EVEN ON THE WORST DAY changes things.
Remember I was where lots of you are, and I made it out and I grew…
The important thing was I got up with a determination and hunger to make sure me and my kids would. And so I did!
Remember, Insanity is the act of repeatedly doing something,with the same results .. yet expecting a different result.
It won’t work. Embrace change and WIN!!!