” A word changes the meaning, the mood and the motivation”~~ Aristotle
The power of a word
A negative term is a negative term regardless of how people say “in using the word ourselves we give it new meaning, new power”
Let’s begin with the example of the word Nigger…the dreaded N word.
Now among ourselves (Poc) we use the term NIGGA, somewhat similar but very different. Now I don’t know how much power we have given it…lol but its slang and perhaps ignorant slang that most people of color, even myself are guilty of using. But the actual word Nigger created and used by white people (NOT ALL WHITE PEOPLE and by some other races to describe us) is negative and will always be.. I wouldn’t care how you explained it to me..the meaning is abhorrent and should never ever be used.
Now moving on to terms that I find disturbing. Look I just want you all to understand that if you use positive terms to refer to yourself ,you will feel the positive energy and self love that comes from those terms.
Ok fellow sex workers now I know some of you believe in using the terms prostitute, hooker, whore…
As you say to be proud and give the words new power..
But REMEMBER where those words came from. Men, MEN, men..misogynistic men called powerful, uncontrollable, dominant, free loving,sexual women that. Those terms were created to degrade and humiliate women. And no matter how often you use them and try to put a different spin on those terms men and square women are still using those terms to describe us to humiliate and degrade us. The only somewhat positive twist of the word is “heaux”. Why do we think calling ourselves whores, etc and allowing anyone to call us that is acceptable?
Sex work is WORK!
ITS A JOB AND IT SHOULD BE A RESPECTED JOB. AND EVEN IF A WOMAN FUCKS EVERYONE FOR FREE ITS HER BODY,HER CHOICE AND WE SHOULD NEVER EVER BE CALLED OR ALLOW OURSELVES TO BE CALLED DEGRADING TERMS BECAUSE OF IT.
Men aren’t , why should we be. Why should we accept that? There is NO good reason for it.
Doctors are doctors, teachers are teachers, etc.. in all other career or job paths people are labeled respectfully. I expect the same for all of us in the sex work community.
Personal choice is personal choice and if you are cool w the other terms that you don’t deserve to be called..that’s your choice. But I am feminist to my core and I REFUSE to be labeled and called by some negative ass , degrading meant to keep me under control terms that men came up with!
I don’t feel powerful hearing or using them. You know what makes me feel powerful in referring to what I do…Hello.. my name is Storm and I am a sex worker, gentleman’s companion, courtesan etc. Because those terms place me in equal standing and even above some men and square women.
I speak of myself and to myself in positive terms only. Same as I say full figured, fluffy, big and beautiful, thick AND NOT FAT. I know we have all supposedly begun using the term FAT too as a powerful term, to take back power..BUT AGAIN ITS AN INSULT TERM.. no one ever used it in it’s original use as a compliment.
Again personal choice. For me I refuse to call myself or allow others to call me anything that was created to be negative.
I just believe in demanding respect ,love and positive energy only in my space and life.
I am a proud sex worker. It is my job and I am a strong sexual woman and if any term should apply..its Goddess ..
Have a great day yall!