Good Morning. I like to think of myself as the IYANLA FIX MY LIFE ( AND FIX MY THINKING) of sex work.
Yesterday on Twitter a lady ( another sex worker) decided she was going to question, comment and chime in on a WOC sex workers thoughts on different treatment when touring etc.
I am going break down a list and I will probably not even cover all the ways that many of us do not get what we should, or treated how we should in this industry. But let me educate those of you who think WOC, BBW’S and all other more “unique” groups use these things as excuses or complaints. YOU
are wrong these things are factual.
Let’s keep in simple in the first example and keep it to where yall live SOCIAL MEDIA.
Case and point , let’s be real , let’s be honest we have all seen photos of black companions , or even full figured companions etc that you know damn well were executed flawlessly, the companion is beautiful. BUT even on the ones
where the retweets and likes may get high they do NOT usually get as high as the white ladies pic ( Or even those who may not be white but have more Caucasian looks and features) You all can deny that if you want…
but it is the truth. In some cases the WOC pics look ten times better and you all know it too but then you will see another ladies pic that is just not a good pic get 900 likes AND usually its a Caucasian counterpart.
We got the simple example out of the way, now lets move on.
I have always been Independent BUT I have done assistant work for agencies. I have been the mentor for ladies who
have come to me after being told by well known agencies and booking assistants that “they only work with white ladies or latin ladies, or that they do not work with BBW’s” You see the thought perception and unfortunately due to how men even view the worth of WOC or fuller figured women has alot to do with it. The agencies and booking assistants know they
wont make as much profit off of these ladies.I see it all the time while assisting agencies. Men ask “Do you have an asian?” “Do you have a white girl?” “Do you have a spinner type”? Not once have I seen the question “Do you have any ebony ladies?”
SO PLEASE do not tell these ladies who are complaining of different treatment that it is an excuse, or that they are angry black women.
Also just because the agencies you have tried didn’t hire you due to you being more curvy, more busty or whatever do NOT compare your
experience to that of the WOC complaining. Honestly I know Latin ladies are women of color BUT trust me even they are higher up on the chain
and get more attention and are treated as more worthy than black women. Latin is thought of as exotic. Black women are treated
as exotic when they travel to other countries.
You see how WOC are treated in sex work isn’t really that different than how they are treated and viewed in general. I get that your privilege
allows you to overlook it, to not get it. Here’s examples where the treatment of black women and girls is so different that you cannot overlook it.
Washington DC over 100 black girls missing, we heard about it for one year and then barely nothing. But the blonde haired blue eyed girl that went missing
in Aruba years ago.. shes never forgotten. They were told the black girls in DC are more than likely being trafficked and instead of really caring or checking
into it.. they would rather think they are runaways.
Another example the R Kelly situation. His choosing of only black girls and a couple of latin girls is quite telling. He knows the world in general
does not value black women or girls. Its much easier to do a few payoffs, for the police to not give a damn when its black ladies and girls he is targeting.
If he did that exact same thing to blonde haired Suzy he’d of already been under the jail. Those are the facts.
So to you ladies on the outside looking in assuming you know what it is like to be a WOC sex worker,( Or who think because you can name maybe 6 black
companions who are able to get what most of the white girls or extremely fair complexioned ladies get without having to blink) if you think you know what it
is really like for most WOC SW you need to be quiet. You have no idea the frustration and anger lots of ladies feel when they know their branding is just as good, their pics are flawless, they are running their business properly yet they are looked over or haggled based on race or complexion and heaven forbid they also be BBW .
I hope after reading this and really thinking some of you who like to say that being a sex worker while being black is no different than your experience
will not say it again. You have no idea what its like. I have white sex work friends one of whom is a best friend who I used to live with. She used to even
be amazed at how differently I was treated, she witnessed it. Not just by white men, most of her clients were black. You see its all across the board. Men regardless or race treat WOC swer’s differently. I am a vet of 17 yrs. I know how to build brands, I do web design and assistant work for other ladies and have for quite some time SO your argument of her not knowing how to run her business certainly do not apply to me and many others. I doubt that it even applies to the young lady the statement was made towards.
Please understand once and for all, you cannot understand what we deal with. You just cant you never will.
That is all have a great weekend all.
Oh and I am definitely NOT “angry”. I simply speak facts.
Calling a black woman “angry” is really usually just a term used to try to shade when a black woman is strong, speaks her mind and doesn’t stay within the confines society seems to expect us to stay within or put up with.
Also let’s all take a moment to give @the_cute_dog on Twitter the attention he craves. He seems to think I am bitter or resentful in the fact that I am a black older BBW. I am sure you all know that the furthest from the truth. I have and will always be confident, beautiful and free of small minded thinking. This blog entry was at the defense of another lady who a non WOC sex worker belittled during a discussion. But Mr. Cute Dog by his own Twitter fingers just proved my point. We have no issue with you guys having preferences. We are merely stating the fact that the industry is DIFFERENT for WOC. Your ignorant comments will never change that. Again….. you should really stay out of conversations that you cannot relate to and that you have to real experience in.
BTW CUTE DOG.. true gentlemen, the guys I and most girls are interested in, are interested in the COMPLETE experience and interaction they have with a companion. I assure you as a companion who has been in biz a long time, raised a whole family on that income w no gov’t assistance , that PLENTY of men desire me and find me beautiful. Beyond that they greatly enjoy my personality and wit. Lastly a shocker for you most of my clients that enjoy me and seek me out are in fact older Caucasian gents. I am proud of who I am and of what I have been able to do. I just wanted to point out that basically every assumption you make of me ( as shown in the attached screenshot) is ridiculous.
You sir are laughable.
OH BTW NUMBERS DON’T LIE, OVER 80,000 VIEWS BE CLEAR, MEN LIKE ME AND WHAT I LOOK LIKE. (STATS FROM SEDUCTIVESTORM.NET)