” A word changes the meaning, the mood and the motivation”~~ Aristotle
The power of a word
A negative term is a negative term regardless of how people say “in using the word ourselves we give it new meaning, new power”
Let’s begin with the example of the word Nigger…the dreaded N word.
Now among ourselves (Poc) we use the term NIGGA, somewhat similar but very different. Now I don’t know how much power we have given it…lol but its slang and perhaps ignorant slang that most people of color, even myself are guilty of using. But the actual word Nigger created and used by white people (NOT ALL WHITE PEOPLE and by some other races to describe us) is negative and will always be.. I wouldn’t care how you explained it to me..the meaning is abhorrent and should never ever be used.
Now moving on to terms that I find disturbing. Look I just want you all to understand that if you use positive terms to refer to yourself ,you will feel the positive energy and self love that comes from those terms.
Ok fellow sex workers now I know some of you believe in using the terms prostitute, hooker, whore…
As you say to be proud and give the words new power..
But REMEMBER where those words came from. Men, MEN, men..misogynistic men called powerful, uncontrollable, dominant, free loving,sexual women that.Those terms were created to degrade and humiliate women. And no matter how often you use them and try to put a different spin on those terms men and square women are still using those terms to describe us to humiliate and degrade us. The only somewhat positive twist of the word is “heaux”. Why do we think calling ourselves whores, etc and allowing anyone to call us that is acceptable?
Sex work is WORK!
ITS A JOB AND IT SHOULD BE A RESPECTED JOB. AND EVEN IF A WOMAN FUCKS EVERYONE FOR FREE ITS HER BODY,HER CHOICE AND WE SHOULD NEVER EVER BE CALLED OR ALLOW OURSELVES TO BE CALLED DEGRADING TERMS BECAUSE OF IT.
Men aren’t , why should we be. Why should we accept that? There is NO good reason for it.
Doctors are doctors, teachers are teachers, etc.. in all other career or job paths people are labeled respectfully. I expect the same for all of us in the sex work community.
Personal choice is personal choice and if you are cool w the other terms that you don’t deserve to be called..that’s your choice.But I am feminist to my core and I REFUSE to be labeled and called by some negative ass , degrading meant to keep me under control terms that men came up with!
I don’t feel powerful hearing or using them. You know what makes me feel powerful in referring to what I do…Hello.. my name is Storm and I am a sex worker, gentleman’s companion, courtesan etc. Because those terms place me in equal standing and even above some men and square women.
I speak of myself and to myself in positive terms only. Same as I say full figured, fluffy, big and beautiful, thick AND NOT FAT. I know we have all supposedly begun using the term FAT too as a powerful term, to take back power..BUT AGAIN ITS AN INSULT TERM.. no one ever used it in it’s original use as a compliment.
Again personal choice. For me I refuse to call myself or allow others to call me anything that was created to be negative.
I just believe in demanding respect ,love and positive energy only in my space and life.
I am a proud sex worker. It is my job and I am a strong sexual woman and if any term should apply..its Goddess ..
Life is a good thing even when it’s tough! Now lately business has been a little slower …
But I have had an amazing summer and it’s going to be a great fall!
Everyone in my households bdays that still live at home are born in September so we celebrated 2 of my kids bdays and then my loves (my partner of 11 yrs) bday.
I am sharing some photos from my sweeties bday weekend because it was so wonderful (yeah I planned it, sex workers make great girlfriends and wives ha!) but also because these are the kinds of surroundings and restaurants etc that a lady like me enjoys.
I enjoy and love the finer things in life and I won’t apologize for that. I look forward to traveling a lot this year and to building more memorable experiences in both my personal life and with my clients!
Not to mention I have a list of about 20 ladies who I seriously want to meet in DC as a location and hang out. I am planning it and will send an invite to those ladies once I have it figured out!
Enjoy these pics from my life and remember to always take time to be grateful and to enjoy the “roses”.
Time for me to figure out how to feed my lingerie and beach addiction haha…
In other words time to hustle and make more income.
Be well and be great!
( some of these are like screenshots , lol but hey I may crop them to perfection when I have more time )
By the way, I will be touring the following locations
Hey guys! As you all know I am big on transparency. So in light of upcoming trips and even just local gentlemen
who have interest in meeting me…
You may notice from times to time “weird” skin as I like to call it on my hands and feet. A year ago I noticed some itchy spots on sides of my feet and kind of just figured it would go away. We are now a year out from
that and it actually spread and now affects my hands and feet. Thank goodness I am a black woman and so as long
as I use my medicated creams and ointments for my Psoriasis the plaques as they are called are not extremely noticeable.
But there are times when it flares badly that my hands and feet are in lots of pain. So sometimes even with creams its not something I can hide. I wanted you all to know and understand what the plaques are as I didn’t want anyone to think I had anything contagious.
PSORIASIS is NOT contagious. Its an auto immune disorder, usually genetic and I cannot pass it to anyone other than one of my
kids who has it ( due to genetics) not because we touched each other lol.
I encourage you to do your research on Psoriasis to understand.
Mine is mild ( knock on wood it stays that way) and doesn’t affect anything other than hands and feet.
I just wanted to share this with you so that everyone knows, I am safe, clean and healthy to see and spend time with. My skin just likes to act like I am the enemy from time to time…lol
This blog is interesting and I love it, of course .. its my blog.
But it has never gotten to the point my beloved stormspeaks.com blog was at.
That blog had a stat reading of 480,000 views. It was a love project of mine for almost 7 yrs.
But here we are! So onward moving, I cannot cry over spilled milk and wanted to just share things with you about me if you are a gentlemen who is new to visiting companions and escorts, or just a guy who hasn’t heard of me or had the opportunity to get to know me.
So some things you may find interesting about me….
I am extremely intelligent and well spoken. Lot’s of this is in my bio on my website , but in case you haven’t ventured over there yet I could read second year college level at age eight years old. I run two web companies one for mainstream industries and one for sex workers. I am also a booking and branding assistant for other companions nationwide. (BTW I am happy to build a web design for any of you gentlemen’s business and do your SEO “search engine optimization” . Don’t be shy ask me BUT do not expect an exchange of services.
I am a creative. I love and enjoy anything that allows me to create something visually stimulating to others. I can paint, and draw just about anything and anyone you can think of!! I won awards ALL throughout school for my artistic ability and was in gifted and talented art programs throughout my school career. I got accepted to college MAINLY on my art abilities , not my grades as by then I had discovered boys and lost my focus. ( I kick myself for it daily lol) Prior to the discovery of boys I was a straight A honor roll and perfect attendance kid for YEARS on end. Back to the creative … I have many talents. I can also do makeup, hair-styling , graphics and you name it . If it is something that leads to something being improved or beautiful, I am in!
My next skill and one of my BEST, I HAVE CHEF LEVEL COOKING SKILLS.. self taught and well as anyone my age knows..
my generation grew up watching out grandmothers and aunts cook. I can throw down in a kitchen. This is one of the reasons I offer a chef session type date. It’s one of the two out of the norm sessions I offer. I also offer a session for men who just need a sexy “therapist” if you will to discuss their emotional pains and business pains with. So many gents have told me how great I was to talk to and I have had some come wanting sex but then having guilt due to divorcing or personal life issues who I made feel warm, welcome and who I just was there for. Like a paid shoulder to lean on. I love those dates just as much as the sensual ones because for me being a companion is about the “experience” ‘and really
connecting with the gentlemen I spend time with.
So I am A REAL GIRLFRIEND EXPERIENCE…( without the relationship lol)
Good conversation, maturity, compassion and PASSION ! A woman who can cook you a meal and then
be your dessert! All while making you feel like you made a genuine friend. I mean It gets no more girlfriend experience than that !
Areas you will find me in more than other are Brunswick Ga, Tampa FL, Baltimore Md, Atlanta Ga, Gainesville Ga, Washington Dc and soon San Jose , Ca and Chicago IL. I hope to make your acquaintance when I pass through.
Good Morning. I like to think of myself as the IYANLA FIX MY LIFE ( AND FIX MY THINKING) of sex work.
Yesterday on Twitter a lady ( another sex worker) decided she was going to question, comment and chime in on a WOC sex workers thoughts on different treatment when touring etc.
I am going break down a list and I will probably not even cover all the ways that many of us do not get what we should, or treated how we should in this industry. But let me educate those of you who think WOC, BBW’S and all other more “unique” groups use these things as excuses or complaints. YOU
are wrong these things are factual.
Let’s keep in simple in the first example and keep it to where yall live SOCIAL MEDIA.
Case and point , let’s be real , let’s be honest we have all seen photos of black companions , or even full figured companions etc that you know damn well were executed flawlessly, the companion is beautiful. BUT even on the ones
where the retweets and likes may get high they do NOT usually get as high as the white ladies pic ( Or even those who may not be white but have more Caucasian looks and features) You all can deny that if you want…
but it is the truth. In some cases the WOC pics look ten times better and you all know it too but then you will see another ladies pic that is just not a good pic get 900 likes AND usually its a Caucasian counterpart.
We got the simple example out of the way, now lets move on.
I have always been Independent BUT I have done assistant work for agencies. I have been the mentor for ladies who
have come to me after being told by well known agencies and booking assistants that “they only work with white ladies or latin ladies, or that they do not work with BBW’s” You see the thought perception and unfortunately due to how men even view the worth of WOC or fuller figured women has alot to do with it. The agencies and booking assistants know they
wont make as much profit off of these ladies.I see it all the time while assisting agencies. Men ask “Do you have an asian?” “Do you have a white girl?” “Do you have a spinner type”? Not once have I seen the question “Do you have any ebony ladies?”
SO PLEASE do not tell these ladies who are complaining of different treatment that it is an excuse, or that they are angry black women.
Also just because the agencies you have tried didn’t hire you due to you being more curvy, more busty or whatever do NOT compare your
experience to that of the WOC complaining. Honestly I know Latin ladies are women of color BUT trust me even they are higher up on the chain
and get more attention and are treated as more worthy than black women. Latin is thought of as exotic. Black women are treated
as exotic when they travel to other countries.
You see how WOC are treated in sex work isn’t really that different than how they are treated and viewed in general. I get that your privilege
allows you to overlook it, to not get it. Here’s examples where the treatment of black women and girls is so different that you cannot overlook it.
Washington DC over 100 black girls missing, we heard about it for one year and then barely nothing. But the blonde haired blue eyed girl that went missing
in Aruba years ago.. shes never forgotten. They were told the black girls in DC are more than likely being trafficked and instead of really caring or checking
into it.. they would rather think they are runaways.
Another example the R Kelly situation. His choosing of only black girls and a couple of latin girls is quite telling. He knows the world in general
does not value black women or girls. Its much easier to do a few payoffs, for the police to not give a damn when its black ladies and girls he is targeting.
If he did that exact same thing to blonde haired Suzy he’d of already been under the jail. Those are the facts.
So to you ladies on the outside looking in assuming you know what it is like to be a WOC sex worker,( Or who think because you can name maybe 6 black
companions who are able to get what most of the white girls or extremely fair complexioned ladies get without having to blink) if you think you know what it
is really like for most WOC SW you need to be quiet. You have no idea the frustration and anger lots of ladies feel when they know their branding is just as good, their pics are flawless, they are running their business properly yet they are looked over or haggled based on race or complexion and heaven forbid they also be BBW .
I hope after reading this and really thinking some of you who like to say that being a sex worker while being black is no different than your experience
will not say it again. You have no idea what its like. I have white sex work friends one of whom is a best friend who I used to live with. She used to even
be amazed at how differently I was treated, she witnessed it. Not just by white men, most of her clients were black. You see its all across the board. Men regardless or race treat WOC swer’s differently. I am a vet of 17 yrs. I know how to build brands, I do web design and assistant work for other ladies and have for quite some time SO your argument of her not knowing how to run her business certainly do not apply to me and many others. I doubt that it even applies to the young lady the statement was made towards.
Please understand once and for all, you cannot understand what we deal with. You just cant you never will.
That is all have a great weekend all.
Oh and I am definitely NOT “angry”. I simply speak facts.
Calling a black woman “angry” is really usually just a term used to try to shade when a black woman is strong, speaks her mind and doesn’t stay within the confines society seems to expect us to stay within or put up with.
Also let’s all take a moment to give @the_cute_dog on Twitter the attention he craves. He seems to think I am bitter or resentful in the fact that I am a black older BBW. I am sure you all know that the furthest from the truth. I have and will always be confident, beautiful and free of small minded thinking. This blog entry was at the defense of another lady who a non WOC sex worker belittled during a discussion. But Mr. Cute Dog by his own Twitter fingers just proved my point. We have no issue with you guys having preferences. We are merely stating the fact that the industry is DIFFERENT for WOC. Your ignorant comments will never change that. Again….. you should really stay out of conversations that you cannot relate to and that you have to real experience in.
BTW CUTE DOG.. true gentlemen, the guys I and most girls are interested in, are interested in the COMPLETE experience and interaction they have with a companion. I assure you as a companion who has been in biz a long time, raised a whole family on that income w no gov’t assistance , that PLENTY of men desire me and find me beautiful. Beyond that they greatly enjoy my personality and wit. Lastly a shocker for you most of my clients that enjoy me and seek me out are in fact older Caucasian gents. I am proud of who I am and of what I have been able to do. I just wanted to point out that basically every assumption you make of me ( as shown in the attached screenshot) is ridiculous.
You sir are laughable.
OH BTW NUMBERS DON’T LIE, OVER 80,000 VIEWS BE CLEAR, MEN LIKE ME AND WHAT I LOOK LIKE. (STATS FROM SEDUCTIVESTORM.NET)
Being the temporary it girl , or having longevity.
For those who have short term plans being the “It” girl is fine…
No argument there but for those who are really planning to be in sex work for the long haul here’s a few pointers.
Interactions w other companions,
If you aren’t social or do not want to be, then this part really doesn’t have anything to do with you.
If you are social or are trying to be then it does and you should pay attention.
Being younger, thinner, etc ( while it may help in the short run) doesn’t mean anything in the long run.
That’s right I said it. So when dealing with other companions who have put in real time, real years and I do not mean those within the 1 to 6 yr range ( that’s the heaux honeymoon phase) I mean REAL time. Those of us with over a decade of experience, then you need to remember to be respectful.
While you may be hot now, we have the wisdom, the strength and the real info on how to really survive and not just survive but thrive in this business. So many girls with less than 10 yrs experience in this industry think because they are hot right now that they know more or are more successful than those of us who have average or mid range lives .
Sweeties take it from me, I made a shit ton of money first few years, but what is more important than that is that I RAISED A FAMILY OF 5 KIDS , EVEN IN TOUGH, BAD TIMES WITHOUT NEEDING ASSISTANCE FROM THE GOVERNMENT. I MANAGED TO ALWAYS REMAIN PROUD AND DIGNIFIED WITHIN MYSELF.
Those are the important lessons that so many of the up and coming companions do not understand. Forget the glam, forget the jet setting…
WHO ARE YOU AS A PERSON? AND CAN YOU REALLY SUPPORT YOURSELF IN THE LONG RUN? That’s whats important.
So many of you spend lots and lots of time trying to impress and make impressions. Men like companions who are genuinely them, trust me I know. Its been the main point of my branding. I know plenty of other ladies as well who have been able to make a good living and to thrive even in the tough times on just being who they really are.
Of course outside appearance and having some level of poise and class are also important BUT it shouldn’t look or feel forced or fake.
To the newer companions. … STOP talking to us like you know more than us. Stop acting entitled like things should just be handed to you .. STOP acting like spoiled kids when you don’t instantly get your way , or when business is slower and you actually have to use your brain and figure out how to make things work.
ESCORTING IS NOT QUICK MONEY!! IT IS NOT EASY MONEY! Years ago it was , THAT time is gone!
Ladies also please stop harassing each other. We are all adults and its hard enough out here without ladies doing little underhanded subtweets to try to sabotage each others businesses or all out outing and bullying of other companions. Where is your honour? Do you not have any? I have been the victim of some of all of this lately it seems people forget who I am , or what I am and that , that nonsense from companions who COULDN’T walk even a half a mile in my shoes will not be tolerated.
The thing I hear all the time from younger companions is that other companions wont help them, wont talk to them, wont provide them with references… WELL there is a reason. Mainly that the younger generation of companions is very ungrateful and selfish and rude when you do try to help them.
I personally have always wanted to help, I really have. But recently I have been shown by 2 companions that I have helped or done work for why others say no and walk away from helping so many of you. Yes I , Storm and now finding it hard to even want to help or befriend many of you based on your lack of knowing how to have some character and manners when dealing with us “old heads” who came before you.
I give respect and I expect it back period. This goes not just for me but for all the “SENIOR companions of over 10 yrs in this biz” if you cannot talk to us with the respect we deserve then do not talk to us. Do not ask me for help, or have me help you and then you decide to act like you are above or beyond me or any other senior companion.
Doing that comes back to bite you in the ass… other companions do see the traits and they do make note.
On to the second part of longevity or surviving this business… HAVE A PLAN B… HAVE A PLAN C… Do not ever put all your eggs in one basket.
Find out what your strengths are and build and use them. I mean outside of your sexual strengths. Get an education. If you have other talents like for me web design and photography and drawing.. use them. If you have other passions and things that matter start a business based on them. Fashion blogger, food blogger, travel blogger what have you.
Always be looking to build your brand in sex work so that you can then start other brands and businesses off of it.
Learn as much as you can. Create as much as you can. Create your own destiny.
Make a monthly budget ladies and stick to it.
I was like a lot of your the first years or so , I was like whooo hooo, I got hella money let me ball out… Then I wasn’t prepared for when shit hits the fan and me and my kids went through a few years of tough times. But then I found a way to combine my businesses, my talents and a way to make sure that each month I plan ahead and this way I have enough to have groceries, to travel, to pay rent and utilities and to spoil myself and my kids.
Of course shit happens so I am not saying each month goes according to plan BUT it is important to at-least have the plan and limit yourself so that even in slow months you have enough for your rent and important things.
Then about 6 to 8 months of doing it that way you should be able to begin putting aside money each month that you cannot touch even if its just 500.00 for your future nest egg.
Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and humble , especially with your peers. and clients also like to see that you are human and a real person.
You would be surprised how freely money flows to you when people know you have feelings, aren’t just a shell and when they see you have a purpose or a goal. When you say thank you, when you seem warm and inviting to your peers and clients it goes a long way.
The moral of this blog is.. DO YOU WANT TO BE HOT A YEAR OR TWO OR FIVE BUT ALIENATE ALL THOSE WHO CAN OR WILL BE THERE FOR YOU? OR DO YOU WANT TO BE CONSISTENT, AND STEADY AND BE ABLE TO PROVIDE AND BE COMFORTABLE FOR YEARS TO COME?
One last very important thing. SAFETY AND BOUNDARIES ARE THE STAPLES OF THIS GAME TO SURVIVE IT.
I have been fortunate and have only had one assault happen to me ever in my 17 yrs of sex work. I have been lucky in that I haven’t been abused or exploited. Sex work gave me strength and actually made my life better, even when it sucks it still was enriching for me.
BUT its because I always cared more about my safety, my family and my boundaries and my self respect than I did the money.
MONEY is great but remember you cannot spend it if you are dead. And the money doesn’t matter if you are in harms way .. So remember put yourself and your family first. Put your safety in a close second and your boundaries in a hard third.
I hope everyone is enjoying the true beginning of the Holiday season.
I spent my time in Florida last week for a whole week. While the trip didn’t go as I would have liked business wise , overall I had a wonderful trip and a wonderful time.
I visited the beautiful Naples Florida ( amazingly fun nightlife. The Blue Martini is amazing) and also the Treasure Island area of the Tampa Beaches. I had some of the best Jamaican food you could imagine while passing through Tampa.
Next stop was Orlando ,Florida and Kissimmee Florida. I loved my time there as well. One of my favorite things is a good , and huge Jersey Mikes Italian sub ( I get mine made a special way) and my friend Kristen Lickens got to witness it.
I also enjoyed some great pizza at Giordano’s in Orlando. It was quite tasty.
The ONLY thing I found questionable and had questions about was…
A place called Machine Gun America with the tagline of “Fun for the whole family” ( and they wonder why we have gun issues in America) Only in Florida can kids come and play and use weapons… ( mind blown)
But overall I loved my time in Florida. I go there all the time but usually just for 24 hours to pick my son up and right back , this was my first time staying there for days in quite a few years.
Now its back to real life…
Today I begin cooking my families Thanksgiving feast. I hope you and your families have a wonderful holiday season!
I may not come back to work in Florida , Oh but I will be back to play and enjoy the area ! ( and to do some more photos lol)
**Side-note: I love when I get to show and remind my haters, doubters and those who would love to see me fail that I have a good life ( for me) and that I am thriving and happy. So to the BOYS not men of Atlanta who like to talk crap, insinuate negative mess, or who have always wanted me to fail. I am growing and glowing… good day!***
Traveling plans updates and specials while traveling.
As of this time Savannah Ga is looking like I may postpone that trip for the week after Thanksgiving.
Naples FL and Tampa/Orlando Florida as of now are still on for next week. ( If something changes that
I will let you know as soon as I know but as of now still looking forward to it)
On both of these trips I will be offering a special rate of 600 for 2 hours while touring.
I normally expect 400 per hour when on Tour.
So it would normally be 800 for 2 hours.
( In some cases the 600 for 2 hours will not be available depending upon the time of companionship for the 2 hours)
I also have Eros ads for Fargo ND and may consider feeler ads in a couple more cities to plan for
more touring after the Holiday season.
Yes I know its going to be freezing. Don’t worry, I will have the proper coats and shoes and more to
tough it out. There is no better time to cozy up to and keep warm under the covers than when its
Chicago, Seattle and Washington DC. YOU ARE GUARANTEED some time with me.
Dates will be posted closer to the actual trips!
I am looking forward to lots of fun.
LADIES WHO NEED HELP WITH MENTORSHIP OR PHOTOS. I WILL BE HAPPY TO HELP YOU
WHEN IN YOUR CITY AS WELL. ( ALL GENDERS ACTUALLY)