**Sorry about all the typos in this earlier, I was just so pissed I speed typed**
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WOMEN SHOULD NEVER , EVER TELL OTHER WOMEN THAT THEY NEED TO LOSE
WEIGHT OR HAVE WORK TO BE ACCEPTED OR MARKETABLE!!!
Read that again….
NOW let me explain a few things to some of you..
Women are already told by men on every damn front what to do, how to look, what to wear and now we are even told when and where to have kids. So if another woman puts down sex work or slut shames you all want to tear her apart. However, you all have no issue doing the same in regard to body positivity and then want to use the good ole same BS line
Victoria’s Secret used in regard to why they have no full figured women in their shows..
” I don’t see what’s wrong with encouraging my other sex workers to tone up and live healthier lifestyles” That and “well no it is true, men on boards say this and that, I get emails where men said this and that”
This from the same ladies who claim to hate review and hobbyist culture but who spend all their time giving a fuck
what the men there said about them.
CONFIDENCE, PERSONALITY AND HOW YOU PRESENT YOURSELF IF WAY MORE IMPORTANT TO YOUR MARKETING AND GETTING CLIENTS THAN
YOUR WEIGHT IS!
Perhaps when giving other sex workers advice try to focus more on teaching them the importance of the following:
1.Having mental thick skin so that they do not give a damn what men say about them as long as they feel beautiful themselves.
( Personally to the men who contact me and make shots at my body or weight I simply say the exact following ” I am beautiful and
especially beautiful for a woman of my age. I market to the men who love women with meat on their bones of which there are plenty and I have
never cared nor will I about the men who are seeking something different than me. I am not interested in spending time with them anyway if
we are not a good fit. Have a good day sir.”) But what I do not do is worry, go pick myself apart in a mirror or give a shit. I been a full figured sex worker since 2001 and I raised 5 kids ( no welfare etc ,on that money) and not in Section 8 housing either ( NOTHING wrong with that tho because I was a welfare and section 8 MOM when I was 20-23 years old before sex work, so no shame)
2. Point the BBW girls you are trying to mentor to examples of BBW ladies who market well, and know what to do to promote in this industry. There are PLENTY of us. And truthfully some of the BBW ladies have larger followings and an almost cult like fan base and make double a week what some of the ladies taking shots at other ladies bodies do. Those are facts! And do you know how and why.. GOOD MARKETING AND A CONFIDENT SEXY AS HELL ATTITUDE AND WAY OF THINKING!
3. Guide them on how to use Social Media Marketing, How to get good , crisp HD pics of themselves even if they cannot afford a PHOTOG there are plenty of other ways to get great images, ( I am happy to teach any of you)
4. Teach them how to find confidence and self love if they do not have it currently. And if you yourself do not have self love or confidence then do
not “mentor” others and make them have self doubt simply because you have self doubt of yourself ( That you lie and cloak behind online Bravado and fake personality)
5.Teach them, what your mother probably taught you growing up, so what he or she said that to you, if you know you are beautiful and you believe it you are.
Be strong, have courage and be unapologetically you and WIN AND SHOW EM WHAT YOU ARE MADE OF! That’s the speech you should be giving to a fellow co sex worker.
6.Teach a BBW sex worker or any sex worker really, that personality and packaging ( hair, clothing, lingerie) along with being able to connect and engage a client mentally is ABSOLUTELY as important as all the shallow physical stuff. Personality with good packaging can steal the soul of any man!
7. THE MOST IMPORTANT , DO NOT LIE TO THEM, LET THEM KNOW THAT WINNING AND WORKING AS A BBW OR OTHER NICHE SEX WORKER IS HARDER WORK! IT REQUIRES MORE MARKETING, MORE BACKBONE, MORE TRIAL AND ERROR TILL YOU FIND WHAT WORKS FOR YOU, BUT REMIND THEM ITS THE MARKETING AND THE BUSINESS FOUNDATION AND SAVVY THAT MATTERS ... WWWWWWWWAAAAAAY MORE THAN THE SIZE OF THEIR BODIES!!!! ( To tell someone that they will be successful based off what you teach them , and only within a 2-5 month period is setting them up for possible disappointment in today’s unstable industry. I am keeping it 100. Ladies with great reputations, and great bodies who know their shit have themselves found things a lot different in the last year. So when mentoring be thoughtful, get to know each sex worker you are consulting and advising on a unique, customized level. Then begin to build their plan for success)
Ladies if any of you are reading this and you have been body shamed by guys on boards, or in emails or by other sex workers and you need to be reminded how bad ass all women are .. contact me. I can help! TAKENBYSTORMDESIGNS@GMAIL.COM
LOVE TO ALL SEX WORKERS!
Have a great week!