The Power of Words… Positive words = Positive Energy

 

” A word changes the meaning, the mood and the motivation”~~ Aristotle

 

The power of a word
A negative term is a negative term regardless of how people say “in using the word ourselves we give it new meaning, new power”

Let’s begin with the example of the word Nigger…the dreaded N word.
Now among ourselves (Poc) we use the term NIGGA, somewhat similar but very different. Now I don’t know how much power we have given it…lol but its slang and perhaps ignorant slang that most people of color, even myself are guilty of using. But the actual word Nigger created and used by white people (NOT ALL WHITE PEOPLE and by some other races to describe us) is negative and will always be.. I wouldn’t care how you explained it to me..the meaning is abhorrent and should never ever be used.

Now moving on to terms that I find disturbing. Look I just want you all to understand that if you use positive terms to refer to yourself ,you will feel the positive energy and self love that comes from those terms.

Ok fellow sex workers now I know some of you believe in using the terms prostitute, hooker, whore…
As you say to be proud and give the words new power..

But REMEMBER where those words came from. Men, MEN, men..misogynistic men called powerful, uncontrollable, dominant, free loving,sexual women that. Those terms were created to degrade and humiliate women. And no matter how often you use them and try to put a different spin on those terms men and square women are still using those terms to describe us to humiliate and degrade us. The only somewhat positive twist of the word is “heaux”. Why do we think calling ourselves whores, etc and allowing anyone to call us that is acceptable?

Sex work is WORK!

ITS A JOB AND IT SHOULD BE A RESPECTED JOB. AND EVEN IF A WOMAN FUCKS EVERYONE FOR FREE ITS HER BODY,HER CHOICE AND WE SHOULD NEVER EVER BE CALLED OR ALLOW OURSELVES TO BE CALLED DEGRADING TERMS BECAUSE OF IT.

Men aren’t , why should we be. Why should we accept that? There is NO good reason for it.

Doctors are doctors, teachers are teachers, etc.. in all other career or job paths people are labeled respectfully. I expect the same for all of us in the sex work community.

Personal choice is personal choice and if you are cool w the other terms that you don’t deserve to be called..that’s your choice. But I am feminist to my core and I REFUSE to be labeled and called by some negative ass , degrading meant to keep me under control terms that men came up with!

I don’t feel powerful hearing or using them. You know what makes me feel powerful in referring to what I do…Hello.. my name is Storm and I am a sex worker, gentleman’s companion, courtesan etc. Because those terms place me in equal standing and even above some men and square women.

I speak of myself and to myself in positive terms only. Same as I say full figured, fluffy, big and beautiful, thick AND NOT FAT. I know we have all supposedly begun using the term FAT too as a powerful term, to take back power..BUT AGAIN ITS AN INSULT TERM.. no one ever used it in it’s original use as a compliment.

Again personal choice. For me I refuse to call myself or allow others to call me anything that was created to be negative.

I just believe in demanding respect ,love and positive energy only in my space and life.

I am a proud sex worker. It is my job and I am a strong sexual woman and if any term should apply..its Goddess ..

Have a great day yall!

Life is Good! ( Even when it’s tough)

Life is a good thing even when it’s tough! Now lately business has been a little slower …

But I have had an amazing summer and it’s going to be a great fall!

Everyone in my households bdays that still live at home are born in September so we celebrated 2 of my kids bdays and then my loves (my partner of 11 yrs) bday.

I am sharing some photos from my sweeties bday weekend because it was so wonderful (yeah I planned it, sex workers make great girlfriends and wives ha!) but also because these are the kinds of surroundings and restaurants etc that a lady like me enjoys.

I enjoy and love the finer things in life and I won’t apologize for that. I look forward to traveling a lot this year and to building more memorable experiences in both my personal life and with my clients!

Not to mention I have a list of about 20 ladies who I seriously want to meet in DC as a location and hang out. I am planning it and will send an invite to those ladies once I have it figured out!

Enjoy these pics from my life and remember to always take time to be grateful and to enjoy the “roses”.

Time for me to figure out how to feed my lingerie and beach addiction haha…

In other words time to hustle and make more income.

Be well and be great!

 

( some of these are like screenshots , lol but hey I may crop them to perfection when I have more time )

 

By the way, I will be touring the following locations

Philadelphia November

Boston December

Chicago and Minneapolis ( to be announced)

Prebooking is open now!

 

 

 

Great time with Tank and Full Service Podcast

Tonight I participated in the Full Service Podcast by Tank ( a stand up comedian from NC now residing in Atlanta)

We shared a lovely car ride and chat as well as some sandwiches from Jimmy Johns.

It was awesome chatting with an open minded non misogynistic hobbyist.  He actually began his podcast to educate others on their misconceptions of sexwork!

His podcast launches this Fall so be checking for it. You can also find him on Twitter and Instagram.

Per usual y’all know I am very very straight up and so my podcast May rub some folks the wrong way BUT we gotta be straight shooters sometimes and just speak truth. My intent in the upcoming podcast was definitely NOT to offend anyone and when the podcast is released you’ll hear me state that several times lol, BUT I do speak my truth!

So when Tank releases it , give it a listen! Until then here’s some pics from yesterday…

 

 

BBW’S AND ALL SEX WORKERS …YOU ARE ALL WORTHY!

**Sorry about all the typos in this earlier, I was just so pissed  I speed typed**

CLICK THE ARROW TO WATCH….

 

WOMEN SHOULD NEVER , EVER TELL OTHER WOMEN THAT THEY NEED TO LOSE
WEIGHT OR HAVE WORK TO BE ACCEPTED OR MARKETABLE!!!

Read that again….

NOW let me explain a few things to some of you..
Women are already told by men on every damn front what to do, how to look, what to wear and now we are even told when and where to have kids. So if another woman puts down  sex work or slut shames you all want to tear her apart. However, you all have no  issue doing the same in regard to body positivity and then want to use the good ole same BS line
Victoria’s Secret used in regard to why they have no full figured women in their shows..

” I don’t see what’s wrong with encouraging my other sex workers to tone up and live healthier lifestyles” That and “well no it is true, men on boards say this and that, I get emails where men said this and that”

This from the same ladies who claim to hate review and hobbyist culture but who spend all their time giving a fuck
what the men there said about them.

CONFIDENCE, PERSONALITY AND HOW YOU PRESENT YOURSELF IF WAY MORE IMPORTANT TO YOUR MARKETING AND GETTING CLIENTS THAN
YOUR WEIGHT IS!

Perhaps when giving other sex workers advice try to focus more on teaching them the importance of the following:

1.Having mental thick skin so that they do not give a damn what men say about them as long as they feel beautiful themselves.
( Personally to the men who contact me and make shots at my body or weight I simply say the exact following ” I am beautiful and
especially beautiful for a woman of my age. I market to the men who love women with meat on their bones of which there are plenty and I have
never cared nor will I about the men who are seeking something different than me. I am not interested in spending time with them anyway if
we are not a good fit. Have a good day sir.”) But what I do not do is worry, go pick myself apart in a mirror or give a shit. I been a full figured sex worker since 2001 and I raised 5 kids ( no welfare etc ,on that money) and not in Section 8 housing either ( NOTHING wrong with that tho because I was a welfare and section 8 MOM when I was 20-23 years old before sex work, so no shame)

2. Point the BBW girls you are trying to mentor to examples of BBW ladies who market well, and know what to do to promote in this industry. There are PLENTY of us. And truthfully some of the BBW ladies have larger followings and an almost cult like fan base and make double a week what some of the ladies taking shots at other ladies bodies do. Those are facts! And do you know how and why.. GOOD MARKETING AND A CONFIDENT SEXY AS HELL ATTITUDE AND WAY OF THINKING!

3. Guide them on how to use Social Media Marketing, How to get good , crisp HD pics of themselves even if they cannot afford a PHOTOG there are plenty of  other ways to get great images, ( I am happy to teach any of you)

4. Teach them how to find confidence and self love if they do not have it currently. And if you yourself do not have self love or confidence then do
not “mentor” others and make them have self doubt simply because you have self doubt of yourself ( That you lie and cloak behind online Bravado and fake personality)

5.Teach them, what your mother probably taught you growing up, so what he or she said that to you, if you know you are beautiful and you believe it you are.
Be strong, have courage and be unapologetically you and WIN AND SHOW EM WHAT YOU ARE MADE OF! That’s the speech you should be giving to a fellow co sex worker.

6.Teach a BBW sex worker or any sex worker really, that personality and packaging ( hair, clothing, lingerie) along with being able to connect and engage a client mentally is ABSOLUTELY as important as all the shallow physical stuff. Personality with good packaging can steal the soul of any man!

7. THE MOST IMPORTANT , DO NOT LIE TO THEM, LET THEM KNOW THAT WINNING AND WORKING AS A BBW OR OTHER NICHE SEX WORKER IS HARDER WORK! IT REQUIRES MORE MARKETING, MORE BACKBONE, MORE TRIAL AND ERROR TILL YOU FIND WHAT WORKS FOR YOU, BUT REMIND THEM ITS THE MARKETING AND THE BUSINESS FOUNDATION AND SAVVY THAT MATTERS ... WWWWWWWWAAAAAAY MORE THAN THE SIZE OF THEIR BODIES!!!! ( To tell someone that they will be successful based off what you teach them , and only within a 2-5 month period is setting them up for possible disappointment in today’s unstable industry. I am keeping it 100. Ladies with great reputations, and great bodies who know their shit have themselves found things a lot different in the last year.  So when mentoring be thoughtful, get to know each sex worker you are consulting and advising on a unique, customized level.  Then begin to build their plan for success)

Ladies if any of you are reading this and you have been body shamed by guys on boards, or in emails or by other sex workers and you need to be reminded how bad ass all women are .. contact me. I can help! TAKENBYSTORMDESIGNS@GMAIL.COM

LOVE TO ALL SEX WORKERS!

Have a great week!

Goodbye Summer 2019 ( well it will officially end this weekend w BBQ)

So thank you to everyone ( as always) who was kind enough to use Taken By Storm now, past or future)
After Banking hell, several personal family issues and just well blending of personalities ( sometimes by force lol)
we were able to make  it to Great Wolf Lodge and share a few days together.

Our Family trip in August is our official end to Summer for us. My oldest daughter and her son were not able to come, and I am
not very happy about that and am not sure where my relationship with her is after she sat out something she knows
was super important to me( I only get to see everyone all at one time once a year) but she is my child and hopefully she
gets her life and her act together soon!

Now I am back home and my Psoriasis on my feet has returned so treating that for the next few days. I need to clean my own pool
so my 4 yr old granddaughter who’s at mom mom’s house for the first time can swim with me here this week. I guess pain and all I
will hopefully figure that out by Tuesday while we still have some warm weather.

What did everyone else do this summer?
I’d love to hear everyone and see your Vacation pics….

Here’s a few of ours ( kids faces blurred to protect them)

Well Happy Autumn  I guess soon….

Storm

 

Enjoy the pics!

An Important article From Taken By Storm Designs & Assistant

I wanted to take the time to say thank you to the many customers and supporters from afar of Taken By Storm!

This Summer has been my first slow period in a while and while it has been difficult I am still grateful for the hopes of the wonderful things on the horizon.

I suppose to some I may seem like a bit of a b I t ch, but I only speak on things or speak on those who wrong me when absolutely necessary .

I am not hateful or vindictive! I simply want honesty and respect from those that I work for or those that contact me for services. We are adults so that’s not too much to ask.

My heart is still kind, I still want to help ALL of you and this means more to me than just money.

My sig other asked me if I won the lottery would I still help the ladies I work for the answer was YES! Because it’s about my journey as a sex worker. It’s about the happiness it brings me to help y’all. I am proud of what I do.

If any of you are out there right now who need web design, an assistant, or SEO or marketing advice I promise you, you won’t find anyone who cares more or who understands more than me…

Feel free to contact me to see what I can do for you.

From now till Aug 17th I am open to negotiate pricing as long as reasonable. I have a family trip coming up and I need to make about 500 more!

Thank you
Storm

Sorry for the possible delay in my response. You will hear back from me soon
Char

Nearing the end of Summer….

I love summer, for probably the same reasons you love it. I am happy however that its coming to an end.  ( Although I still have a very important family trip with all my children and grandchildren Aug 20-25th) That trip is super important now. My youngest grand baby who is 4 has been in the hospital since end of last week. Hopefully she gets to go home today.  Asthma really got her this episode and it was very scary for my adult son ( her daddy) and for all of us.

At any rate I really and truly need some business, or even just contributions ( and I do future work for you ) I just really needed to reach out to my community and see if there is anyone needs work!

BY the way, the 900 web design package is the only one that comes with ONGOING SEO MONTHLY at no additional fee for the first 6 mos!   All other packages are one time SEO set up and then an additional fee for ongoing SEO.

If you are interested in an assistant I have 2 slots open!

If you are interested in an assistant I have 2 slots open!

( For assistant work please only contact me , if you really need an assistant and if you can really afford having one. Please don’t scam me, or waste my time. I am looking for 2 more Long term ongoing assistant clients)

I also offer branding consultant services, ad copy and copy writing for web sites,social media marketing services,  paid screening lessons for a month etc.

And don’t forget TakenByStorm photography !

Feel free to contact me at 678 316 5791 ( text is preferred till we set a time to speak)

 

Or email me at takenbystormdesigns@gmail.com

 

Thanks for reading!

Storm

( IF YOU ARE A GENTLEMAN READING MY AD, I DO ALSO HAVE A VANILLA WEB DESIGN COMPANY AND WE DO ALSO DO WEB SITES, GRAPHICS ETC FOR ALL KINDS, TYPES OF BUSINESSES NOT JUST EXCLUSIVE TO SEX WORK. ALSO I AM TAKING APPOINTMENTS **NO SAME DAY** AND SCREENING IS REQUIRED)

 

 

 

 

Happy Top of the Week July 15th 2019

 

I decided to just drop in this morning and share a blog lol.

It’s been a bit since i blogged or at least it feels like it has.  My summer so far has been a little lackluster.  However I am blessed and cannot complain.  This summer has been a lot slower  in regard to the usual amount of web design clients I get in the summer months.  I know a lot of ladies have been complaining about business being slow and others have to wait until the fall to do new pics etc.  So yes I’ve felt a bit of a pinch of financial stress but I am still grateful for what me and my family do have.  With that being said ” HEY EVERYONE , I CAN USE MORE WEB DESIGN AND ASSISTANT WORK STAT!!”

Other than that life is good.  My adult kids , even with their own financial struggles this summer are doing well and are good human beings and that is most important. My younger kids well, its Summer and they are enjoying it. In August same as last year we all , including my grandkids go on vacation together. I only get to see them all together once a year for a week. Since my older 3 live back in Maryland and Delaware area where I am originally from myself.

So I love Summer because I get to see my whole bunch.  I guess however I have embarked on an endless summer. Last year I made up my mind I was going to go to as many different beaches , when I tour as possible and so far I think I have hit about 7 beaches. More to come!!

Due to the slowness of the Summer and the cross country stings being done in so many places , I had to put my Chicago plans on hold AGAIN , and it is very frustrating to me, because I WANT TO SEE CHICAGO AND EXPERIENCE IT MORE THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE.   ( There are lots of places and countries , I want to see but its definitely one of the top choices) . I wanted to do my traveling while school was out but it doesn’t seem that its going to line up that way. So I will hopefully have an uptick in business soon and be able to make both my dreams and the dreams of my gentlemen admirers a reality.

I am always, always available for FLY ME TO YOU! I prefer it in fact as it alleviates the brunt of the expense from falling on me.  SO BY ALL MEANS, FLY ME TO YOU 🙂

This summer in a nutshell for me so far , has been filled with family fun, water, and love and great food!

I cannot wait to share more summer experiences with you after my family vacay in August.

On another note, I will have some new pics and videos hopefully of myself to share by the end of this week. If my current web assignments and assistant work doesn’t keep me so busy that I just don’t have the time.. Hopefully I can carve some time out for my admirers !

 

See you soon and remember , Life is a Beach ! ( Enjoy it)

 

xoxo

Storm

 

 

My year battling Psoriasis ( A note to my clients)

My yearly battle with Psoriasis

Hey guys! As you all know I am big on transparency. So in light of upcoming trips and even just local gentlemen
who have interest in meeting me…

You may notice from times to time “weird” skin as I like to call it on my hands and feet. A year ago I  noticed some itchy spots on sides of my feet and kind of just figured it would go away. We are now a year out from
that and it actually spread and now affects my hands and feet. Thank goodness I am a black woman and so as long
as I use my medicated creams and ointments for my Psoriasis the plaques as they are called are not extremely noticeable.

But there are times when it flares badly that my hands and feet are in lots of pain. So sometimes even with creams its not something I can hide. I wanted you all to know and understand what the plaques are as I didn’t want anyone to  think I had anything contagious.

PSORIASIS is NOT contagious. Its an auto immune disorder, usually genetic and I cannot pass it to anyone other than one of my
kids who has it ( due to genetics) not because we touched each other lol.

I encourage you to do your research on Psoriasis to understand.

Mine is mild ( knock on wood it stays that way) and doesn’t affect anything other than hands and feet.

I just wanted to share this with you so that everyone knows, I am safe, clean and healthy to see and spend time  with. My skin just likes to act like I am the enemy from time to time…lol

Everyone have a good day!

Hope to spend time with you soon!

xoxo

Storm

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Boundaries (Gents) Please respect them

OK…. I have blogged, explained this before ( probably several times before)

Men, Boys, Guys, Him , He  whatever you’d like to be called today…

Please do not contact me and other sex workers in this fashion

( Let me be more specific, READ OUR WEBSITES, OR ADS,  follow and abide by what you see there)

Then do not do this afterwards:

Do you do quick visits?

How much?

Can you send me a pic?

Are you available now?

I see the rate is XYZ but will you accept this or that?

What do you offer?

All of this is annoying, time wasting and things that you can already know and not irritate your prospective companion with asking !

As of today I will grandfather in past friends with hour appointments , but all new friends will now require the 90 min session. You can stay and leave when you want but the donation minimum on new friends for me is my 90 min rate.

Also if you rush me into seeing you on the same day when I have said SEVERAL TIMES I DO NOT DO SAME DAY SESSIONS, you will pay an additional 100 for the inconvenience!

 

Thanks for understanding.