Preparation for listening to my Tank Smith Full Service Interview (Pls read)

So with my upcoming podcast with Tank Smith, and with how I speak with some ladies I assist about strength and what it is and how to have it, and how to take your power back. I know you will hear some things I say in my podcast interview ( even though I apologize for how they may sound as soon as I say them,) that some of you that are more sensitive may be taken aback by.

So I wanted to just give this short epilogue here …so should I need to guide any sensitive folks to it…
after they hear my interview.. It’ll already be here for you to find.

Things about me before and during sex work that you may be shocked to know..
( so that when you hear the interview , you wont be able to say that I am entitled or that I haven’t been through the things I am talking about.. I ASSURE YOU I HAVE!)

When I was 19-21 yrs of age for instance before sex work..
I had not one but by that 3 abusive relationships.
One boyfriend who beat me up when he found out that when he cheated on me, I cheated w his friend.
One boyfriend who put a gun to my head on an abandoned street and said hed kill me also a cheating asshole who had been cheating on me , who couldn’t handle when I cheated back..
and lastly one that I actually allowed to live with me in my first place on my own who beat me on more than one occasion because he was trying to hide he was into men ( BTW I have no issues with it, I just didn’t want to date a man playing both sides of the fence, and yeah that sounds crazy since I am BI, but its true)

Not to mention the times between 18-32 yrs when men in the middle of sex both in and out of sex work didn’t listen when I said no to them removing condoms and continued anyway. ( BTW men that too is sexual assault. I can remember 3 times that happened to me, thank God .. God was with me and my health wasn’t affected) I know one time I came home from a date when I was 32 and my now 17 yr old sons dAD had been at my home spending time with my son. I told him what the guy had done to me and he wanted to go kill him. Again I held myself together, went to the doctor and continued. I don’t think I even cried that time. I just was angry as hell.

I also at 20 had an uncle in law , ( Ive still never told my auntie) who I told I needed money and he picked me up and took me to his house under the guise that he was going to pay me for cleaning their pool. I didn’t know wed be there alone. While cleaning the pool he decided to tell me that he’d help me learn to swim. Evidently part of being taught how to swim was being fingered several times while he helped me try to float… so I been sexually assaulted, even if I wasn’t left w bruises.

And my one and only bad experience as a sex worker. I lived in Raliegh in 2007 and had a date with a man who I didn’t realize was a monster. He picked me up because I couldn’t host at my home . We drove to his home where we had dinner and drinks ( I still drink on dates but I never ever get tipsy anymore on dates) And here’s why…
During sex with this seemingly nice man I turned around into doggy style . He then decided to force anal on me against my will. I said no, he continued told me to stop crying that It wasn’t his fault I had chosen my job. My crying seemed to ruin the “mood” so he stopped and decided to drive me home. On that way home all I could think was I wanted to kill him, even in the car, I was thinking I could murder him , take his car and no one would know.. BUT then I remembered I have to get home to my kids, I have to be strong and walk back in this house w no tears. My now 26 yr old son asked me when I walked in what was wrong because even though I wasn’t crying , he could tell I wasn’t myself. I said nothing I went upstairs and got ready for my next appointment to pick me up .. I had rent to pay , kids to feed…so I continued my day.

It took me till 2017 to mentally admit Id be raped, or atleast sexually assaulted now 2 times in my life.

I never let those experiences of abuse or assault break me or change me from who I am. And that’s where I am coming from when I say things in my interview. So I want you all to not listen and think I am making light or fun of anything.
I know the hurt, the rage and the “secret” keeping of abuse. I have been at the front line of it.

Just know. I am pro woman, pro sex worker and I want to see you all stand up and take your power back!!

BTW IF I HAD IT ALL TO DO OVER AGAIN, ID TAKE THE RISK AND REPORT ALL THEIR ASSES TO THE POLICE….
I WILL EAT A MISDEMEANOR TO GIVE ANY MAN WHO HARMS ME A FELONY … PLEASE BELIEVE THAT. AND IF I FEEL AT RISK ENOUGH IN CIVVIE OR WORK EVER AGAIN, I WILL ROCK AN ORANGE JUMPSUIT. NOT GOING TO ALLOW ANY MAN TO HARM ME AND GET AWAY WITH IT EVER AGAIN. I DON’T THINK ANY OF YOU SHOULD EITHER.

Podcast Full Service will go live this Tuesday night
its Full Service Podcast by Tank Smith

Thank you
11/9/2019
Seductive Storm

Yes, Im a Sex Worker and a Mother

So…

( If you are looking for a read that is sexy, feeds fantasy etc…. This blog entry here, isn’t the one to read)

As some of you know, I have mentioned my 31 yr old daughter having bi polar.

I have empathy but I know other bi polar people who are not “monsters” for lack of a better term. My daughter and her toxicity are things that at least for now I have decided to keep out of my life as I need peace and growth of my own.

I only mention her because some of her comments make me think of things that civvie women and men often say about people who are escorts.

My daughter would love for the world to believe that me being an escort made her life hard.. ( BTW IT IMPORTANT TO NOTE THAT, MY DAUGHTER WAS ALREADY 14 OR ENDING OF 13 WHEN I BEGAN, SHE NEVER WAS AS YOUNG AS HER YOUNGER SIBLINGS WHEN I BEGAN. IF ANYTHING ID EXPECT HER TO BE MORE UPSET ABOUT HER DAD AND HER STEPDAD’S INFLUENCE ON OUR HOME LIVES AND HER LIFE THAN MY OCCUPATION. BUT THAT’S ANOTHER STORY. SHE WAS NEVER EVER ABUSED, I’D BE IN JAIL IF ANY OF MY KIDS WERE ABUSED BECAUSE SOMEONE WOULD HAVE TO DIE.) So trust me her formative years were not marked at all by me becoming a sex worker.

Its bullshit!
In fact other than having to babysit when I worked, having gone through rough times financially on more than one occasion ( BOTH THINGS THAT HAPPEN OFTEN NO MATTER WHAT YOUR PARENTS OCCUPATION IS BTW) overall things got better.

Let’s see ..
Instead of being gone everyday 16 hours a day working in the medical field…I was home for the most part.

I knew where my kids were, they knew where I was. I could go to parties and events w them and make my own hours to be home.

We could afford to go to concerts,events to have the best Halloweens Every year.

She could come in at any time except for when we were struggling and get money for prom dresses or just a trip to the mall.

Now had I have been a mom struggling after a divorce like most single moms in the civvie world do…she wouldn’t have had those things.

Yes till she was 18 she also had a trust fund. So once a yr well say she was able to buy her own things.   BUT make no mistake she was loved and cared for.

If were going to be very honest..my escorting affected my 26 yr old son way more than her because when she left home..he had to really go thru the struggling with me..when we moved to Ga knowing no one and he really had to become the man of the house at 14. So for him I could understand any complaints. She however was really truly in the house having to watch her younger siblings because she was on punishment already 90 percent of the time for her mouth and for not doing her schoolwork. Funny how kids only remember the parts of their childhoods that suit them when they want to play victim

The point is SEXWORK made me a better mom actually and also led me to seeing my greatness and to now running 2 companies of my own.

When I was young I was one of those girls similar to my daughter who due to loneliness slept w more men honestly then than I probably did my first few years of escorting. I’m one of those ladies who’s clients really only 15 percent of them over the years have gone full service w me. They truly connect w me, respect me and it creates a different dynamic for most of my dates. I happen to be proud of that. Although I do not mind my gfe gents long as they also treat me with respect.

I have more respect for how I used my body once I could pay my Bill’s and provide for my children than I will ever ever have for when I was just being stupid and desperate for male attention and sleeping with anyone who found me sexy. Meanwhile I was a food stamp and welfare mom w an education who should have been doing better.

To anyone reading this in the civvie world. The woman sleeping w everyone for free is no better in anyway than the one getting paid. The one getting paid is simply taking some power and control of her situation.

I would NEVER want any of my daughters to need to be sex workers not because its shameful but purely because its dangerous.  However I also wouldn’t want my daughters sleeping w everyone or any man for that matter and unable to keep a home or pay their Bill’s or provide for their kids.

All I did was simply stop sleeping around for free and began to profit from something I’d already been doing. It was no secret I was a wild one when I was younger.

So to any family members or friends who may by chance stumble across my blog….

YOU WILL NEVER SHAME ME..THERE IS NO SHAME IN ME.
PERIODT.

Thanks for allowing me to clear my head…

Storm aka Char

Seeking other BBWS or likeminded companions

Offer is good to all companions not just BBWS.

I am seeking another BBW, race unimportant to do doubles with when visiting other cities.

I have a list of places I both want and need to visit this year ,so we can compare notes.

Also other ladies are free and welcome to reach out too.

I’d like a like minded lady. Professional, screens hard, and enjoys nice things and fun and glam.

Lady like and classy but also w some freak in her.

If anyone is SERIOUS and interested pls contact me.

Seductivestorm@protonmail.com
Or seductivestorm@safeoffice.com

Holiday Incentive Specials 2019

** see more by going to https://www.seductivestorm.net/gifts  **

IT’S HOLIDAY SEASON 2019!! HERE ARE MY OFFERINGS!

Now these aren’t the kind of specials where there will be 40/50/60 or even 100 dollar offerings..

Sorry guys if it won’t add up right for me it doesn’t make “cents” to me ( pun intended)

 

My rates normally begin at 300 FIRM! Especially for new friends No exception!

Right now Holiday season only I will entertain 200 for NON GFE  one hour companionship.

Normally my policy states all new friends must do 90 min session or up.. SO HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

 

Not to be rude or a bitch but if you cannot afford 200 then the luxury of spending time and money with lovely , female companions probably isn’t where you belong.

 

$200 is absolutely beyond reasonable. Lingerie, laundry , bedding and supplies costs most

companions well beyond that 200. So please be gentlemen and appreciate the 200 rate.

After all it does save you $100!

 

This special is good ONLY for the month of NOVEMBER and can end at any time once

I have met my goal!  So it may run the whole month of November and then again, maybe it won’t, so

don’t delay.

 

Have a great week!

 

 

 

The Power of Words… Positive words = Positive Energy

 

” A word changes the meaning, the mood and the motivation”~~ Aristotle

 

The power of a word
A negative term is a negative term regardless of how people say “in using the word ourselves we give it new meaning, new power”

Let’s begin with the example of the word Nigger…the dreaded N word.
Now among ourselves (Poc) we use the term NIGGA, somewhat similar but very different. Now I don’t know how much power we have given it…lol but its slang and perhaps ignorant slang that most people of color, even myself are guilty of using. But the actual word Nigger created and used by white people (NOT ALL WHITE PEOPLE and by some other races to describe us) is negative and will always be.. I wouldn’t care how you explained it to me..the meaning is abhorrent and should never ever be used.

Now moving on to terms that I find disturbing. Look I just want you all to understand that if you use positive terms to refer to yourself ,you will feel the positive energy and self love that comes from those terms.

Ok fellow sex workers now I know some of you believe in using the terms prostitute, hooker, whore…
As you say to be proud and give the words new power..

But REMEMBER where those words came from. Men, MEN, men..misogynistic men called powerful, uncontrollable, dominant, free loving,sexual women that. Those terms were created to degrade and humiliate women. And no matter how often you use them and try to put a different spin on those terms men and square women are still using those terms to describe us to humiliate and degrade us. The only somewhat positive twist of the word is “heaux”. Why do we think calling ourselves whores, etc and allowing anyone to call us that is acceptable?

Sex work is WORK!

ITS A JOB AND IT SHOULD BE A RESPECTED JOB. AND EVEN IF A WOMAN FUCKS EVERYONE FOR FREE ITS HER BODY,HER CHOICE AND WE SHOULD NEVER EVER BE CALLED OR ALLOW OURSELVES TO BE CALLED DEGRADING TERMS BECAUSE OF IT.

Men aren’t , why should we be. Why should we accept that? There is NO good reason for it.

Doctors are doctors, teachers are teachers, etc.. in all other career or job paths people are labeled respectfully. I expect the same for all of us in the sex work community.

Personal choice is personal choice and if you are cool w the other terms that you don’t deserve to be called..that’s your choice. But I am feminist to my core and I REFUSE to be labeled and called by some negative ass , degrading meant to keep me under control terms that men came up with!

I don’t feel powerful hearing or using them. You know what makes me feel powerful in referring to what I do…Hello.. my name is Storm and I am a sex worker, gentleman’s companion, courtesan etc. Because those terms place me in equal standing and even above some men and square women.

I speak of myself and to myself in positive terms only. Same as I say full figured, fluffy, big and beautiful, thick AND NOT FAT. I know we have all supposedly begun using the term FAT too as a powerful term, to take back power..BUT AGAIN ITS AN INSULT TERM.. no one ever used it in it’s original use as a compliment.

Again personal choice. For me I refuse to call myself or allow others to call me anything that was created to be negative.

I just believe in demanding respect ,love and positive energy only in my space and life.

I am a proud sex worker. It is my job and I am a strong sexual woman and if any term should apply..its Goddess ..

Have a great day yall!

Life is Good! ( Even when it’s tough)

Life is a good thing even when it’s tough! Now lately business has been a little slower …

But I have had an amazing summer and it’s going to be a great fall!

Everyone in my households bdays that still live at home are born in September so we celebrated 2 of my kids bdays and then my loves (my partner of 11 yrs) bday.

I am sharing some photos from my sweeties bday weekend because it was so wonderful (yeah I planned it, sex workers make great girlfriends and wives ha!) but also because these are the kinds of surroundings and restaurants etc that a lady like me enjoys.

I enjoy and love the finer things in life and I won’t apologize for that. I look forward to traveling a lot this year and to building more memorable experiences in both my personal life and with my clients!

Not to mention I have a list of about 20 ladies who I seriously want to meet in DC as a location and hang out. I am planning it and will send an invite to those ladies once I have it figured out!

Enjoy these pics from my life and remember to always take time to be grateful and to enjoy the “roses”.

Time for me to figure out how to feed my lingerie and beach addiction haha…

In other words time to hustle and make more income.

Be well and be great!

 

( some of these are like screenshots , lol but hey I may crop them to perfection when I have more time )

 

By the way, I will be touring the following locations

Philadelphia November

Boston December

Chicago and Minneapolis ( to be announced)

Prebooking is open now!

 

 

 

Great time with Tank and Full Service Podcast

Tonight I participated in the Full Service Podcast by Tank ( a stand up comedian from NC now residing in Atlanta)

We shared a lovely car ride and chat as well as some sandwiches from Jimmy Johns.

It was awesome chatting with an open minded non misogynistic hobbyist.  He actually began his podcast to educate others on their misconceptions of sexwork!

His podcast launches this Fall so be checking for it. You can also find him on Twitter and Instagram.

Per usual y’all know I am very very straight up and so my podcast May rub some folks the wrong way BUT we gotta be straight shooters sometimes and just speak truth. My intent in the upcoming podcast was definitely NOT to offend anyone and when the podcast is released you’ll hear me state that several times lol, BUT I do speak my truth!

So when Tank releases it , give it a listen! Until then here’s some pics from yesterday…

 

 

BBW’S AND ALL SEX WORKERS …YOU ARE ALL WORTHY!

**Sorry about all the typos in this earlier, I was just so pissed  I speed typed**

CLICK THE ARROW TO WATCH….

 

WOMEN SHOULD NEVER , EVER TELL OTHER WOMEN THAT THEY NEED TO LOSE
WEIGHT OR HAVE WORK TO BE ACCEPTED OR MARKETABLE!!!

Read that again….

NOW let me explain a few things to some of you..
Women are already told by men on every damn front what to do, how to look, what to wear and now we are even told when and where to have kids. So if another woman puts down  sex work or slut shames you all want to tear her apart. However, you all have no  issue doing the same in regard to body positivity and then want to use the good ole same BS line
Victoria’s Secret used in regard to why they have no full figured women in their shows..

” I don’t see what’s wrong with encouraging my other sex workers to tone up and live healthier lifestyles” That and “well no it is true, men on boards say this and that, I get emails where men said this and that”

This from the same ladies who claim to hate review and hobbyist culture but who spend all their time giving a fuck
what the men there said about them.

CONFIDENCE, PERSONALITY AND HOW YOU PRESENT YOURSELF IF WAY MORE IMPORTANT TO YOUR MARKETING AND GETTING CLIENTS THAN
YOUR WEIGHT IS!

Perhaps when giving other sex workers advice try to focus more on teaching them the importance of the following:

1.Having mental thick skin so that they do not give a damn what men say about them as long as they feel beautiful themselves.
( Personally to the men who contact me and make shots at my body or weight I simply say the exact following ” I am beautiful and
especially beautiful for a woman of my age. I market to the men who love women with meat on their bones of which there are plenty and I have
never cared nor will I about the men who are seeking something different than me. I am not interested in spending time with them anyway if
we are not a good fit. Have a good day sir.”) But what I do not do is worry, go pick myself apart in a mirror or give a shit. I been a full figured sex worker since 2001 and I raised 5 kids ( no welfare etc ,on that money) and not in Section 8 housing either ( NOTHING wrong with that tho because I was a welfare and section 8 MOM when I was 20-23 years old before sex work, so no shame)

2. Point the BBW girls you are trying to mentor to examples of BBW ladies who market well, and know what to do to promote in this industry. There are PLENTY of us. And truthfully some of the BBW ladies have larger followings and an almost cult like fan base and make double a week what some of the ladies taking shots at other ladies bodies do. Those are facts! And do you know how and why.. GOOD MARKETING AND A CONFIDENT SEXY AS HELL ATTITUDE AND WAY OF THINKING!

3. Guide them on how to use Social Media Marketing, How to get good , crisp HD pics of themselves even if they cannot afford a PHOTOG there are plenty of  other ways to get great images, ( I am happy to teach any of you)

4. Teach them how to find confidence and self love if they do not have it currently. And if you yourself do not have self love or confidence then do
not “mentor” others and make them have self doubt simply because you have self doubt of yourself ( That you lie and cloak behind online Bravado and fake personality)

5.Teach them, what your mother probably taught you growing up, so what he or she said that to you, if you know you are beautiful and you believe it you are.
Be strong, have courage and be unapologetically you and WIN AND SHOW EM WHAT YOU ARE MADE OF! That’s the speech you should be giving to a fellow co sex worker.

6.Teach a BBW sex worker or any sex worker really, that personality and packaging ( hair, clothing, lingerie) along with being able to connect and engage a client mentally is ABSOLUTELY as important as all the shallow physical stuff. Personality with good packaging can steal the soul of any man!

7. THE MOST IMPORTANT , DO NOT LIE TO THEM, LET THEM KNOW THAT WINNING AND WORKING AS A BBW OR OTHER NICHE SEX WORKER IS HARDER WORK! IT REQUIRES MORE MARKETING, MORE BACKBONE, MORE TRIAL AND ERROR TILL YOU FIND WHAT WORKS FOR YOU, BUT REMIND THEM ITS THE MARKETING AND THE BUSINESS FOUNDATION AND SAVVY THAT MATTERS ... WWWWWWWWAAAAAAY MORE THAN THE SIZE OF THEIR BODIES!!!! ( To tell someone that they will be successful based off what you teach them , and only within a 2-5 month period is setting them up for possible disappointment in today’s unstable industry. I am keeping it 100. Ladies with great reputations, and great bodies who know their shit have themselves found things a lot different in the last year.  So when mentoring be thoughtful, get to know each sex worker you are consulting and advising on a unique, customized level.  Then begin to build their plan for success)

Ladies if any of you are reading this and you have been body shamed by guys on boards, or in emails or by other sex workers and you need to be reminded how bad ass all women are .. contact me. I can help! TAKENBYSTORMDESIGNS@GMAIL.COM

LOVE TO ALL SEX WORKERS!

Have a great week!

Goodbye Summer 2019 ( well it will officially end this weekend w BBQ)

So thank you to everyone ( as always) who was kind enough to use Taken By Storm now, past or future)
After Banking hell, several personal family issues and just well blending of personalities ( sometimes by force lol)
we were able to make  it to Great Wolf Lodge and share a few days together.

Our Family trip in August is our official end to Summer for us. My oldest daughter and her son were not able to come, and I am
not very happy about that and am not sure where my relationship with her is after she sat out something she knows
was super important to me( I only get to see everyone all at one time once a year) but she is my child and hopefully she
gets her life and her act together soon!

Now I am back home and my Psoriasis on my feet has returned so treating that for the next few days. I need to clean my own pool
so my 4 yr old granddaughter who’s at mom mom’s house for the first time can swim with me here this week. I guess pain and all I
will hopefully figure that out by Tuesday while we still have some warm weather.

What did everyone else do this summer?
I’d love to hear everyone and see your Vacation pics….

Here’s a few of ours ( kids faces blurred to protect them)

Well Happy Autumn  I guess soon….

Storm

 

Enjoy the pics!

An Important article From Taken By Storm Designs & Assistant

I wanted to take the time to say thank you to the many customers and supporters from afar of Taken By Storm!

This Summer has been my first slow period in a while and while it has been difficult I am still grateful for the hopes of the wonderful things on the horizon.

I suppose to some I may seem like a bit of a b I t ch, but I only speak on things or speak on those who wrong me when absolutely necessary .

I am not hateful or vindictive! I simply want honesty and respect from those that I work for or those that contact me for services. We are adults so that’s not too much to ask.

My heart is still kind, I still want to help ALL of you and this means more to me than just money.

My sig other asked me if I won the lottery would I still help the ladies I work for the answer was YES! Because it’s about my journey as a sex worker. It’s about the happiness it brings me to help y’all. I am proud of what I do.

If any of you are out there right now who need web design, an assistant, or SEO or marketing advice I promise you, you won’t find anyone who cares more or who understands more than me…

Feel free to contact me to see what I can do for you.

From now till Aug 17th I am open to negotiate pricing as long as reasonable. I have a family trip coming up and I need to make about 500 more!

Thank you
Storm

Sorry for the possible delay in my response. You will hear back from me soon
Char