I was recently interviewed for a piece on NON trafficked sex workers that worked during the
Super Bowl. It was an honor to speak as a part of the sex work community. See link for article
However there was a lot said in my hour long talk with Hallie that did not make it to the interview. I feel I want to share a lot more here because it seems the last month
has been more of the usual, but absurd trafficking propaganda than usual.
First let me state. I have daughters, I have sons. I am anti- trafficking just like any decent human being is. If a person is really being put into slavery or forced
to do things against their own free will. I just like you am outraged.
My issue however is with the blurred lines on the subject.
I am a strong active Feminist and one of the problems with “rescuers” are the Feminist groups who do NOT include ALL women! That is wrong! As a true feminist I can tell you it includes all groups of women NOT just supposed morally upstanding , middle class,
I mention this because I am tired of seeing, reading and hearing the following:
1. If someone is paying you, it means you are not really having sex of your own free will,
you are only having sex because you were coerced by the money.
2. Being sexy , dressing sexy, dancing sexy is allowing men to use us as sexual objects.
3. Escorting, is being raped everyday etc etc
Now allow me to counter all those comments :
1. Don’t most women even in mainstream relationships have sex with their mates out of equal parts, love, lust, and also because its a REQUIREMENT of the relationship? Aren’t we taught as girls that if we want to keep our man “happy” we need to meet his physical needs?
Do you know how many wives and girlfriends are tired at the end of the day and yet they still
have sex to keep the financial stability , to keep him from cheating ( although that doesn’t really work).
Point is YOU , even you Miss or Mr Rescuer are being USED sexually and mentally by someone
whether you admit it or not!
2. Why can’t I as a grown woman use my sexuality and my looks in anyway I see fit.
Maybe just maybe I like being sexy, maybe I do not get up in the morning thinking ” Hmmm how
is a man going to view how I am dressed” Maybe I get up and I feel pretty in WHATEVER I decide to wear.
Maybe I go out and I like to dance and move sexy because I AM LIVING MY BEST LIFE AND HAVING FUN!
Again I am grown , so what is your issue.? Maybe we all feel sorry for you prudes who are living in some
moral, mental prison of adhering to what men have told you makes you a “good girl” an acceptable lady.
Running through life in your charcoal grey trousers , your mock turtleneck and your mom hair. I am just saying
we could “throw stones ” too if we wanted to.
Why is it wrong for adult men, women, trans , non binary people to USE THEIR BODIES AS THEY SEE FIT?
3. I assure you escorting is not getting raped everyday. I and others have made a choice to make our money with our bodies, our time, our personalities as our commodity. Men and “good girls; Use the term whore to describe any “loose” woman who uses her sexuality as she pleases. SO why then do you all have an issue with
US getting paid for it. No one seems to care when a poor girl is sleeping with 10 guys a week for free but cant even pay her rent or feed her family. THAT is ok, that’s the shit that should be illegal.
I proudly ( OTHER than with my partner of ten years who I love and who loves me) practice STOP
For those not sure what Stop is it’s
Lastly , to round out this weeks idiocy in the world of “End Human Trafficking” “Rescue” propaganda
POLARIS PROJECT has decided it now wants us all to not meet anyone online.. lmao
Well on dating sites and apps. I mean because you know .. EVERYONE IS TRAFFICKED.
Grown ups cannot even decide where, and how we meet people anymore…
Some of you must really have miserable, boring lives. I feel bad for you.
Newsflash, anyone , anywhere if they really have the intent can kidnap , hurt, harm and traffic
anyone REGARDLESS of how they met them. Even a minister can be a pedophile, or worse.
Please when you all really want to help trafficked victims STOP using OVERKILL propaganda
to push your agenda. It really only harms the exact people, the real victims you claim you want to save.
Trafficked victims , REAL ones are stolen from airports, grocery stores, night clubs and hundreds of other
ways besides online. ONLINE ads and such actually make it easier for LAW ENFORCEMENT TO TRACK AND FIND THE PEOPLE REALLY BEING TRAFFICKED . If you all keep trying to shut down and shut off everything you make things a playground for the predators who now can hide in the shadows with no electronic trail.
Your logic is simply illogical!!!
THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEX TRAFFICKING AND CONSENSUAL SEX WORK!!!
LETTER I ACTUALLY EMAILED TO SEVERAL DEPARTMENTS AT POLARIS